Leston Laycock Havens M.D. Professor Emeritus Harvard University

Born in New York, N.Y. on July 31, 1924. Graduate of Cornell Medical School, passed away peacefully, surrounded by family Friday morning July 29, 2011.

A resident of Cambridge, MA. for thirty-eight years, he was a member of The Cambridge Health Alliance Faculty for over twenty-five years.

His methods of teaching and healing are known and practiced throughout The United States, parts of Europe and Asia.

Les’s family invites you to attend a memorial service
Sunday, October 16, 2011 from 2-4 p.m. at Memorial Church, Harvard University.
Reception to follow at The Harvard Faculty Club.

In lieu of flowers please consider giving to:

The Teachings of Leston L. Havens, M.D. Fund. The fund will facilitate the teaching of Dr. Havens' academic and clinical work through utilizing his books, papers, videos, and audios as source materials at The Cambridge Health Alliance.
Go to www.challiance.org/havens or contact Bethanie Long blong@challiance.org

Donations may also be given in Dr. Havens' name to "The Children of Bellevue", Bellevue Hospital Center New York City www.childrenofbellevue.org
Contact Francine Morin, Francine.Morin@nyumc.org

FULL BOSTON GLOBE OBITUARY

The purpose of this website is to consolidate in one place much of what I have done, said, and written in my career until now, to make articles available to download that are out of print or difficult to locate, to put forth new ideas for feedback from you and other discussants, and to have links to sites that can make teaching materials available for clinicians, such as interview videos.

Recently I have been reflecting on the following: a way of looking at life, people, a way to think about understanding each other and making a difference in each others’ lives, whether you are a doctor, lawyer or Indian chief, a fireman, policewoman, mother, father, or the new manager of the Red Sox.

What I want to suggest is that the two principal experiences between people are of similarities and differences. How do we enjoy not only our similarities but our differences? How do we acknowledge, even confirm and respect , our differences?

First, we must overcome our surprise at the differences. In fact nothing should be less surprising, in view of how we are constituted. Note that we even have differences within ourselves, which are also experienced as conflicts. Then, like good scientists and humanists, we need to experiment with taking the different other’s point of view, like the part of ourselves we object to. We may even need to practice taking the other’s point of view in difficult experiences like marriage. Such practitioners will often be astonished how lives are thus opened up to one another. The same is true clinically, especially with paranoid and grandiose individuals.

The final question could be: is there anything else? Passion, of course; security, too. But these are generally transitory and often disappointing. Virtue appeals to many but so often it goes unrewarded, even by the possibility of heaven. So exploration could be the most dependable ideal, and respectful exploration perhaps the largest virtue of them all.

The purpose is to construct livable lives and to share them, especially with those we love.

Leston Havens
Cambridge, Massachusetts